The older I get, the more often I hear myself saying the same things to my kids that Mom said to me! I think that’s why the title of this book by John Rosemond caught my eye: Grandma Was Right after All! It turns out, my mom was right about a lot of things, and I didn’t exactly appreciate that while I was growing up.
There’s plenty of good advice mixed in with the pithy sayings that most of us will recognize our parents or grandparents quoting. As much as I always disliked the phrase, “Because I said so,” you really can’t reason with a 4-year-old intent on getting his own way. No matter what you say, sometimes they just keep arguing… How many of us haven’t, “Learned our lessons the hard way,” and been left to deal with the consequences of our own actions, no matter how unpleasant. Admittedly, these “hard way” lessons are the ones that have stuck with me the most. That saying, “You’re acting too big for your britches,” may or may not have been directed at me a few times… And if only I had a dollar for every time Mom told me, “Life isn’t fair,” well, you get the picture!
I love my kids dearly, and I do enjoy being around them. I sure hope that they like to be around me too! Unfortunately, I also have the responsibility to parent them. That’s not always easy! Telling them, “You made this bed, and now you’re going to have to lie in it,” and then stepping back and letting them do just that will probably not make me popular. Looking back though, I’m glad that Mom did that for me. This is the kind of “big picture” perspective that you’ll find in Grandma Was Right after All!
Now, I didn’t necessarily agree with everything in the book, but there is a lot of good advice to be gleaned from it. My one big concern is that the book overall came off as a bit harsh. Yes, sometimes our kids do need to learn their lessons the hard way, but we need to balance this with relationship-building and making sure that we show our kids how much we love them too.
Overall, I enjoyed reading Grandma Was Right after All!, and I did find some great suggestions in the book. Not to mention laughing over some of the all-too-familiar phrases from my childhood!
Note: I received a complementary copy of the book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. All opinions expressed are my own.