Today I have to read something that I wrote about Mom. Her eulogy. Funerals are difficult for me. I try to avoid them whenever possible. One is bad enough. Two seems nearly unbearable to me. So, I pray for an extra measure of grace and peace. The only way that I’ll survive today, is truly by the grace of God. Interestingly enough, that is the topic of Mom’s eulogy. For those of you who are not able to be here today, I am posting the entire text here. It is perhaps, not my best writing, but it has certainly been the hardest for me to write out of anything. It is the best tribute that I could write for the wonderful woman who I was immensely blessed to call, “Mom”.
“Amazing grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me!
I once was lost, but now am found;
Was blind, but now I see.”
It’s customary on such occasions to speak about how truly good that a person was. But, that’s not what Mom would have wanted. Romans 3:10 tells us, “There is none righteous, no, not one;” She would not wish us to remember what a remarkable woman she was, without crediting it to the work of God in her life.
John 3:16-18 explains, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. He who believes in Him is not condemned;” This was the very foundation of Mom’s faith. Above all else, she was truly a follower of Christ, and a woman of unwavering faith in Him.
James writes, “Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.” That was the key; that was what made Mom the wonderful woman, who we all remember with great love. Mom’s faith was so real and vital to her, that it touched every area of her life. The result of her faith was that she was a Godly woman. Everyone who knew her loved her; they couldn’t help but love her. She was kind and loving to all of us. Her faith is what gave her that great love and compassion for others that we all remember so well. All of this was the work of God in her life.
“Through many dangers, toils and snares,
I have already come.
Tis grace that brought me safe thus far,
And grace will lead me home.”
Mom suffered through some very difficult things in her life. Through every one of them, she relied on God’s grace. I remember one time in particular, when she was in tears, and she asked how much more we would have to face. With her next breath she quoted 2 Corinthians 12:9 “And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.'” Then she prayed that God would give her grace, and she finished by praising God.
God did bring her safely through many things. On more than one occasion He miraculously intervened, healing her and giving us a little more time with her here. I am so thankful for that. But on March 3rd, 2009, it was time. God called her home. His grace had brought her through all of her trials and struggles. Now, it was finally time for her to lay the burdens down for good, and go home. She finished her race. And I am convinced that her Savior welcomed her home with the words, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”
“The Lord has promised good to me,
His word, my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be,
As long as life endures.”
Mom found great comfort in the scriptures, in God’s word. She spent many hours with me as I was growing up, helping me to commit it to memory. Now, I find tremendous comfort in those very same promises.
John 16:33 “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
John 14: 27 “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”
2 Corinthians 1:3&4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.”
And the verse she wrote in the front of nearly every Bible that she ever gave me, Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”
Mom left a legacy. One that I cannot hope to live up to, but one that I aspire to nonetheless. She taught me the most important things that I have learned. She prayed me through all of my own struggles. She left me with hope, because the legacy of her faith lives on still.
I shall miss her every day, for the rest of my life. I miss her even more now, than I did that night in March. I grieve, but I do not grieve without hope. My hope is in the same God who Mom placed her hope in. Her Savior, is also mine. That is why I take comfort in the knowledge that we will one day be reunited in the presence of our LORD.
I wrote a stanza of my own to the tune of “Amazing Grace”. It is what I imagine that Mom might say to us now if that were possible.
“There’s no more pain, and no more fear,
My Lord has made me whole.
So dry the tears; I’ll meet you here,
When your Savior calls you home.”